If you have been consistently unhappy at your job, its time to think about making a change.
But as with most important decisions in life, its not always that simple.
There are several things to take into consideration before you put in your two weeks notice: You may not be able to find jobs that pay as well as your current job, you may not be qualified for another role with your current credentials or you might simply be struggling to muster up the energy to launch a job search.
I have been in this tough situation, and I know that as unpleasant and stressful as it can be, we can make it so much harder on ourselves by self-sabotaging.
We compare ourselves to our colleagues and friends, we tell ourselves to just wait and see or we dont have a definitive plan, so we panic instead of doing something.
As a former pro self-saboteur, I know a thing or two about totally screwing yourself over.
So, lets break it down, get you out of this career standstill and make you feel more confident about quitting your job.
Heres how you are getting in the way of your career growth and how to stop:
1. Youre always comparing yourself.
Comparing yourself to your colleagues or friends is going to achieve only one thing: making yourself feel really shitty.
Sure, maybe your former college roommate is killing it as a fancy real estate agent in LA, and you know this because her Instagram feed is chock-full of images of the mansions and swanky beach homes she sells. And perhaps, one of your co-workers is creatively brilliant, while another is a great speaker and can command a room like no other.
But, comparing yourself to them is useless. Everyone does better or worse than others when it comes to certain skills. What one person does poorly, you may naturally have a real talent for.
Instead of comparing yourself, think about your strengths.
What can you do better than most? Perhaps that old roomie of yours is making bank in the vapid West Coast real estate world, but can she design a website like you?
Can she, like you, skillfully compose an email to a difficult client who is complaining, yet again? Can she thrive in a team environment as well as you do?
Ask yourself, What do I do better than most? Own those strengths!
2. You convince yourself its OK to wait it out.
I should just wait until the next round of performance reviews.
Ill hold on until after the new year and see what happens.
A lot of things could change, so you never know.
If you find yourself saying these things in order to convince yourself to stay in your wretched job, you are in denial. The last thing you want to do in this situation is play the waiting game!
When it comes to our careers, we cannot drag our feet in the hopes that other people will come along and make everything OK. I know working a full-time job can absolutely eviscerate your energy and morale.
And when you then have to go home to meticulously tweak your resume and scour the internet for open positions, its exhausting. But, it is a part of the process.
Whether you are a painter or a software engineer, you have to actively put yourself out there, market yourself and straight-up hustle in order to land a dream gig. Please do not wait for anyone to just pop out of the ether and offer you a great job if you havent put in the time and energy.
When is waiting it out a good tactic? If its part of a larger strategy, like saving up enough money to start your own business, waiting to graduate from your masters program or waiting on more funding so your company can create the roles you really want to do (in the case of startups).
Otherwise, its just a waste of time, and if you stick to the waiting game long enough, it will become a way of life, and nothing will ever change.
3. You dont know what to do next.
Its hard to go after something when youre not too sure what you want. It can be scary and stressful, especially when you find yourself ready to leave your job in order to save your sanity and dignity, but arent sure what to do next.
When you dont know what you want, it seems like the only option is to stay where you are until the answer appears, regardless of how trapped it might make you feel.
There are limitless options, but maybe you just dont feel particularly committed to any of them because you cant see them individually. They all seem to be lumped into this one massive decision that just keeps growing the more you think about it threatening to crush you.
Dont get crushed! Just start asking yourself some questions.
Is it the job itself (your role in the company) or the company culture or work environment? Would you be better off in a new city? Maybe you want tospend more of your time with people or have better flexibility in your hours.
I dont think the level of clarity can make or break your ability to leave your job, but it is important to think about.
What really matters is being able to ask some hard questions and being confident enough to go for it.
This article was originally published on the authors personal blog.
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