I dont know what it is, but I always seem to attract the man who isstill in love with hisex, which greatly affects hisability to connect with me.
Its easy to avoid this guy when you see himcoming from a mile away, waving hisI love my ex flag. But when heslow-key not over hisex, its hard to know until youre in too deep and your feelings are at stake.
Here are six telltale signs hes not over his ex:
1. He wont commit to you
If youve been casually but exclusively dating him for a few months, then I dont blame you for wanting to make things official. After all, its been a few months and theres really no reason not to unless hes still holding out hope for his ex.
If you bring it up and he brushes it off or tells you, I like where things are right now, itsan indication things arelikely going nowhere unless it involves his ex. Dump his ass, girl.
2. He finds reasons to talk about her
Imagine having dinner and the conversation is waltzing toward the direction of the ex.
Its like when youre in high school and you have a crush on a guy; youll find every excuse to talk about him, no matter how crazy youre driving the people around you.
Its essentially no different, except its his ex and hes clearly not over her.
And, if you and your SOhave mutual friends whoare friends with hisex, this is an entirely possible scenario.
3. He still talks to her and hangs out with her without you
Its not uncommon for people to remain friends with their exes, especially if they were friends before they started dating.
However, if hes going out with mutual friends and his ex,but he doesnt invite you along or even tell you shell be there its abig red flag hes not over her.
For whatever reason, he doesnt want her to seeyou, probably in hopes theyll be able to patch things up and get back together.
If it was a healthy relationship between the two of you and a healthy friendship between them, hed invite you alongand things wouldnt be awkward at all.
4. He still likes her photos on Facebook
Theres no harm in liking a few photos and posts here and there, but if every time she posts a photo or status, if hes right on top of liking it, it certainly causefor concern, especially if they no longer speak in real life.
If hes silently creeping her social media, hes obviously trying to keep tabs on her. Theres no reason to keep tabs on anyone unless youre not over them.
5. He compares you to her
Ever get into any arguments? Maybe you left the dishes on the corner of the sink. His retort is, Ashley never did that, or maybe Jessica always did that.
Whatever the issue is, his ex shouldnt be brought up. Maybe hes comparing your profession to hers, or her fashion and decorating styles to yours.
If hisex is being compared to you, hes not over her.
6. Hes hot and cold with you
This one goes hand-in-hand with him not committing.
If hes going days without talking to you, hes either unsure about you or hes got his mind on someoneelse.
If hes not interested, its not hard to outright tell you and move on with his life. But if hes hot and cold with you, its likely that hes keeping you on the back burner until hes absolutely sure things wont ever work out with his ex.
Not getting over your ex is completely natural, but its not natural to continue to date if you havent given yourself time to grieve.
Hes not wrong for mourning the loss of his relationship, but if thats the case, then he shouldnt be attempting new relationships or leading unsuspecting women on.
The important thing to remember is if you realize youre dating a guy who isnt over his ex, its not your job to help him get over her he needs to sort it out on his own.
Quit wasting your time now before its too late and he breaks your heart. There are many more non-heartbroken fish in the sea for you or at least ones withwounds that arent as fresh.
